Suicidal thoughts, teenagers and coping with depression
Coping with suicide varies from person to person because each suicide is different you need to find what works for you. If you have been affected by suicide you will need to grieve through this difficult time. Grieving is also a unique process but this webpage introduces some of the main feelings associated with coping with the affects of suicide.
- It’s okay to grieve
- The death of a loved one is a reluctant and drastic amputation, without any anesthesia. The pain cannot be described, and no scale can measure the loss. We despise the truth that the death cannot be reversed, and that somehow our dear one returned. Such hurt!! It’s okay to grieve.
- It’s okay to cry
- Tears release the flood of sorrow, of missing and of love. Tears relieve the brute force of hurting, enabling us to “level off” and continue our cruise along the stream of life. It’s okay to cry.
- It’s okay to heal
- We do not need to “prove” we loved him or her. As the months pass, we are slowly able to move around with less outward grieving each day. We need not feel “guilty”, for this is not an indication that we love less. It means that, although we don’t like it, we are learning to accept death. It’s a healthy sign of healing. It’s okay to heal.
- It’s okay to laugh
- Laughter is not a sign of “less” grief. Laughter is not a sign of “less” love. It’s a sign that many of our thoughts and memories are happy ones. It’s a sign that we know our memories are happy ones. It’s a sign that we know our dear one would have us laugh again. It’s okay to laugh.
Help for suicidal thoughts
It’s normal to have bad days but if these ‘bad days’ last for longer than usual you may have depression. Lighthouse is here to help those who have problems with their mental health. We can and will be able to help you. So if you are feeling depressed, or you have lost a loved one through suicide, you can contact Lighthouse for advice.
Suicide prevention cannot be done with one single method but taking the time to listen to someone talk about their problems really does help. If you know someone is having difficulty with their feelings let them know you are there for them. If they approach you, listen to what they have to say. If you find after having a conversation that this person needs help you could suggest that they contact Lighthouse for mental health help.
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- Preston, J.D. and Kirk, M. (2010) Depression 101. Oakland: New Harbinger Publications Inc.